“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
I thought it was necessary to talk to guys about fighting with yourself for forgiving someone and beginning to find forgiveness towards them. Yes, it’s going to be difficult forgiving someone who has hurt you or you’ve had disagreements with. I can say as I become older in life; I begin to realize that forgiveness is easier said than done. I’ve had people to hurt me; I would forgive them, but I would still continue to be upset or mad at the situation. Needless to say, forgiveness is a process. It does not fully happen at the moment when you speak forgiveness, but when you begin to heal.
It may be difficult to accept what that person did to you. On the other hand, you forgive someone, not for their sake, but yours. Today I’m sharing with you three tips to find forgiveness.
1. Forgive them for YOU
When you think about forgiving someone, do it for your sake and sanity to begin to heal the wounds. Either you choose to move forward or start the healing process to get over the hurt caused by what happened. Either way, if you choose to do both of those options forgive that person for yourself and not them.
2. Begin the healing process
The healing process can be difficult. When forgiving someone, the person may not be sorry for what they did. It shows how strong you are to forgive them knowing they aren’t sorry. Healing is necessary so you won’t hold any grudges towards that person. Grudges leave you angry and dark. It may even affect your mood whenever you around that person. However you heal, do it for yourself so anger will not overcome your reality.
3. Move forward.
Begin to forward to peace and love. Living in peace allows no room for grudges against someone. Moving forward is good for you to move forward in your relationships, life, and decisions. You will learn what you accept and don’t accept from people. People will also learn how to treat you. Move forward and live YOUR life.
Just because you’ve decided to forgive someone doesn’t mean what happened was ok. Forgiveness is allowing the person to know it wasn’t ok doing what they did and letting them know how to treat you and the consequences that come with it. Forgive when YOU are ready to forgive. Forgiving is not forgetting. Do not grow bitter, Grow better.
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